Mike Michalowicz of The Toilet Paper Entrepreneur, gave kind and honest tribute to us mompreneurs on his blog this week, illustrating the many ways mothers are literally designed for business success. From multi-tasking to collaborating, the modern mompreneur is forging warm, fuzzy new territory in business-building.
Interestingly, one commenter didn’t think Mike’s nod to mompreneurs was altogether compelling. In fact, I think Kathleen Fasanella might have been yawning at the computer screen when she wrote:
“Women have been working from home for hundreds, if not thousands of years. Trumpeting the matter now is somewhat akin to denying our mothers did it too but without a lot of fanfare. I think there lies a danger in defining one’s self in such limited terms.”
In other words: women have always known how to make something from nothing. They’ve always been resourceful because they had to be. Not because it was vogue or fun or gee, just really special and touching to sit alongside other “mompreneurs” and sing Kumbya on the Internet at two o’clock in the morning.
Here’s the part we mompreneurs forget during our digital love-ins:
Moms have been working (for money) and running their own enterprises since Christ was a child. Then in post WWII America we created the mythological Happy Days mom who’s primary job in life is to ensure every nuance of the 1950s Nuclear family is perfectly preserved. She wears an apron, bakes cookies with an idiotic smile plastered across her face, and can’t wait for hubbie to get home each night (not so she can shove her clingy little brats into his arms, but because, you know, she missed her hardworking man sooooo much during the day).
(Cough. Cough. Ahem.)
Before and after Happy Days mom came on the scene, moms worked for pay, with or without their children at their side. Today, moms still build businesses, but now we’re doing it online and in a more public fashion. The power in numbers thing is working for us because we’re visible, we’re able to be collective in our thinking, we know we’re not alone in our Alpha struggles, and we’re getting really good at being honest about the fact that to be a mompreneur is to be often-misunderstood.
Hey, we need camaraderie just like our male counterparts do, in or out of the office.
But do we need to really share everything about our work-at-home lifestyle in the digital space? Maybe Kathleen is feeling, well, a little annoyed by all the chatter about PMS and how many days in a row can you wear the same sweatpants before they stand up on their own and walk out of the room?
I don’t know. I feel like I’m scratching the surface of something else here. Like maybe there needs to be a bolder, more clearly drawn line between old fashioned authenticity and old fashioned “Who cares about your dirty laundry?” I for one, am getting a wee bit annoyed with the fanfare, and I WROTE THE BOOK on working at home as a strong, empowered woman. But at what point does “celebrating our womanhood” start to replace, even cast a shadow upon, building real, sustainable, blood-sweat-and-tears businesses?
Is it possible that we celebrate ourselves into oblivion? That we become irrelevant just as we’re picking up steam (publicly)?
What do you think, dear mompreneur?
It’s been over 3 years since I made the decision to become a full-time WAHM and that decision was not made lightly. In fact, choosing entrepreneurship over employment was downright agonizing. The “what ifs” and the “what abouts” consumed my mind for months and drove my husband to buy earplugs (almost). So what was the kicker – the ultimate tool(s) for helping me choose the right path – a simple pros and cons graph drawn on a coffee stained napkin in Starbucks was the catalyst – not hard eh? Secondly came a questionnaire which helped clarify even further what it meant to be a WAHM.
Here’s the pros and cons list I made back in 2006 (without the stains).
Pros and Cons of Becoming a WAHMPros and Cons of Becoming a WAHM
It’s been over 3 years since I made the decision to become a full-time work-at-home mom, and that decision was not made lightly. In fact, choosing entrepreneurship over employment was downright agonizing. The “what ifs” and the “what abouts” consumed me for months and drove my husband to buy earplugs (almost). So what was the kicker, the ultimate decision-making tool (s) that helped me “see the light?”
Would you believe a simple pros and cons graph drawn on a Starbucks napkin?
Who da thunk it?
For the sake of helping you make that ultimate decision, I have re-created that napkin in blog post format – without the coffee stains!
My “WAHM Pros and Cons” List:
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Pros
|
Cons
|
| Financial |
no clothing, bus or meal expenses no need to go outside of home for a job |
no stable employment income, no medical, no pension |
| Family Support |
all 4 family members supportive |
|
| Taxes |
write off expenses for a home based business |
need discipline to put away $ for taxes |
| Time |
have work flexibility with family life |
cannot get away from work – work and home office in the same house |
| Software |
|
will need to purchase a new computer – $ to be invested in set-up costs |
| Training Required |
will be learning new skills -big learning curve |
will need to spend $ and time to learn new skills |
So even after making the list, my kids begging me to choose “entrepreneurship” and hubby totally onside, I was still not convinced. Having no entrepreneurial bone in my body, the idea of being my own boss just didn’t sit right. So I created a second assignment for myself.
My “WAHM What If” Checklist:
A checklist of the “what if” scenarios would force me to really see the consequences of choosing to work at home. Here we go.
Financially – Will we go “broke” if I choose to be a WAHM.
Yes or NO
Financially – We will have a lack of money in the short run. Are you okay with that?
Yes or NO
Financially – If someone offers you a set salary with a great job position, will you give up the WAHM lifestyle?
Yes or NO
Time to Grow – How many years will you give your work-at-home business a chance to develop?
- 1 year and then call it quits
- 2-4 years
- 5 years
And on and on. You get the idea.
These were just a few of the tactics I used to steer me in the right direction. If you are struggling to get to the core of the who, what, when where and why of making that big decision, then get out your trusty pen and paper and spend the time to think through the scenarios I have outlined. Make your own decision charts and listen to the entrepreneur within; you’ll know the answer, eventually.
And if you’re reading this on your laptop at the coffee shop, grab a napkin and start writing.
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